Unmarried people are often preoccupied with the idea of finding that special someone who will satisfy them all the time. This is impossible, and unrealistic expectations of this sort lead to conflicts and divorces. People, especially women, don’t know how to find a good match today. While desiring happiness they don’t know how to attain it, confusing reality with fairytales. Inside every person is a sea of egoistic hatreds and misunderstandings that must be contended with before happiness can be secured. The first order of business is to nullify this internal chaos by rising above one’s ego. The second order of business is to seek connection on this higher ground transcending both fantasies and concessions.